BDSM discipline is necessary!
BDSM discipline is necessary!
The biggest punishment: Not to do it! After all, BDSM has an unbelievable number of pleasurable facets. But the erotic core and the most gripping pleasure of bondage, SM and Co. are definitely in the many different punishment variants! Both for the dominant as well as for the submissive partner: Here everyone can live out their respective preferences in the respective role completely individually.
How to keep an (evil) overview between spanking your ass, tickle torture and ginger in unusual places can be read here!
BDSM Penalties - Why actually?
The excitement of BDSM is basically that a submissive person (sub) submits to a dominant person (dom). Both roles can of course be played by both sexes!
The lustful power gap can be limited to the bedroom and the own four walls or even turn the whole world into an erotic playground - depending on the inclinations and experiences of the partners involved. No matter where and when the dom humiliates the sub or commands him/her submissive and nevertheless uplifting tasks: If the sub screws up his task, he must be punished!
There are no limits to the fantasy of punishment... apart from common sense and some basic rules, which you can also read here.
But otherwise everything from inserted and remote-controlled sex toys in public to physical punishments at home may be present. Besides many popular "classics", which we are about to introduce, the punishments are of course also based on a creative desire and a very individual integration of one's own personalities, life situations and preferences - what makes Team A horny may leave Team B completely unimpressed. Hard work is definitely part of it!
The most popular punishments – for her and for him
The supreme discipline of ass-whipping is usually fun even for those who don't understand themselves as BDSM followers. But especially the experienced BDSM fans love it. The particular pleasure pain during spanking is besides the punishment ritual also a real hotter. Especially when spanking the buttocks and thighs, the stimulated and well supplied with blood nerves in the pubic region act like a boiling volcano for the increasingly pulsating sexual organs. The power for the Dom therefore lies not only in the humiliation caused by the beatings themselves, but also in the fact that he can now forbid the extremely horny Sub any further sexual acts... what a torture!
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FiggingThe wonder of the word continues in practice - because Figging literally makes you hot! This centuries-old Japanese BDSM and SM punishment practice comes very noticeably from the old traditions rooted in the Far East. In figging, an approximately finger-sized ginger root is peeled and artfully carved into a kind of anal plug or anal dildo, which is then inserted into the anus. The essential oils in the ginger provide for an immediate pain by a sharp burning, which is completely harmless however despite all intensity.
This BDSM and SM punishment dates back to the Middle Ages and was mostly used as interrogation torture, but even today it still provides very truth-intensive moments of power.
The sub can live out his lust between total loss of control and almost unbearable touches, while the dom enjoys the loud calls for mercy while exploring the most intensive body regions.
The basic requirement is that the sub is absolutely immobilized. Because only in this way is he completely subservient to the tickle of the dom. The regions of the body that react particularly sensitively are of course the most popular - these can be the primary and secondary genitals, but do not have to be! Especially the feet make this practice a real punishment. The tickling can be performed with hands, feathers, sticks and other aids. The main thing is that real boundaries are tested... or exceeded.
Rimming is also called Anal-Oral or ass licking. Originally it is a method of torture and submission from the Middle Ages, but even today there are enthusiastic lickers and licked. The nerve endings at the buttocks and especially at the anus react incredibly sensitively to stimuli and the tongue can be used very imaginatively: moist kissing, licking and anus penetration with the tongue.
Because the ass is a dirty place for oral sex (you can find all information about it here!), Rimming can be used perfectly for meaningful power games. The medieval torture DNA is still in every ass-licking order given in SM or BDSM. The dom enjoys the intensive stimuli at the anus and the humiliation of the sub - and the sub enjoys the submissive role of the punished.
Punishments can be intensified by fixing the head of the sub and the dom stretching its buttocks out to the motionless sub. 1000 years ago and still today, for example, smother boxes were used: a special wooden rimming-box for the head of the sub, with an opening over the face and mouth on which the dom sits. No escape!
Read more about wild rimming fun, possible concerns and why it should be part of your sex life even without a penalty catalogue here!
Bastonate or foot whipping
What the foot massage is for one person, the foot whipping is for another! The Italian expression bastonata stands for stick blow and hits exactly the nerve of this SM and BDSM punishment. It's about blows with a stick on the bare sole of your foot. Once again, contemporary punishment fans have used an ancient method that was used more than three thousand years ago as a punishment practice and torture method.
The worldwide popularity of foot reflex zone massages and the special sensuality of erotic foot massages show that the sole of the foot is known for intensive touch stimulation.
With the erotically punishing bastinado, however, the hardness is significantly higher than that of a massage. The enormous density of nerve cells in the sole of the foot not only transports circular finger movements to the brain at lightning speed, but also an almost exploding pleasure pain.
It is important that the sub is fixed and that the dom slowly increases the strength of the blows! Then the lust on both sides increases and the sub is guaranteed to notice that he deserves it!
This special form of punishment - and sex practice - for a change does not come from the Middle Ages... but it would have if electricity had existed 1000 years earlier! Despite its modern character, this method of punishment has already become a real classic and is well established in the BDSM and SM scene.
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Human furniture or Forniphilia
Lack of mobility is and remains an essential part of SM and BDSM practices - and especially of course when it comes to punishment.
But Forniphilia is a very special form of "fixation". It is incredibly humiliating and punishing, as the tie to the sub is mainly mental. And what's more, the sub must become a piece of furniture that serves the dom as a punishment or humiliation ritual.
To do so, he/she must remain naked or in clothes ordered by the dom motionless for hours - sometimes with local fixations. Its function can be that of a clothes rack, for example, or, if the dom wants to touch it more actively and thus degrade it more intensively, serve as a footrest or table from which the dom even dines.
Ignoring him or her absolutely can of course also be very, very punishing, as the sub stands in the dark closet or back room for hours. Nice side-effect: it makes the sub even more obedient afterwards!
And don't forget: Of course, a piece of furniture needs regular polishing! ;-)
The diaper penalty is a form of humiliation that belongs to the general category of infantilism. In this BDSM fetish, the submissive person must imitate a baby to show the dom and herself how small and helpless she is. She lets herself be looked after by the dom like a small child and usually also has to wear a pacifier and above all a diaper. The power gap that the roles bring with them stimulates both partners in different ways.
Wearing a diaper and pacifier creates a very unstable but deliberate cocktail of humiliation and security.
The dom can be a parent, an aunt, an uncle or a doctor. He changes the baby's diapers, gives orders and of course punishes her.
The exercise of power during a punishment can be, for example, a ban on toilets for the diaper wearer - or sometimes the order to wear the diaper under the clothes in everyday life.
IMPORTANT: Infantilism is a fetish that reflects the power gap between dom and sub in an unusual role-playing game and should therefore not be confused or unified with paedophilia! Role-playing is also not about practising sexual acts, but about living out clearly defined roles and enjoying the strong power gap.
Punishments for the female slave
Binding, fixing or getting her all upset by always stopping erotic games right before the climax are only a few variations. There are no limits to the imaginative world of punishments for slaves. Besides figging or spanking, mental punishments can be used such as ignoring or erotic games with female nudity. Living out the roles of the power gap in public - usually in a kind of "undercover variant" - offers many couples enormous excitement and a very lasting gain in lust.
More Ideas are:
- Pleasure the dom without hands and without the mouth and still bring him to a grandiose orgasm.
- "Eat off the floor" - her plate is simply placed beside the table.
- Orgasm ban - during sex she must let you know tell right before she cumming. Then you simply stop and she is only allowed to finish the dom off.
- Naked cleaning - or in lingerie
- Ice cube treatment all over the body
- The "naked co-driver" - and then off to the city
- Doing the chores with bell clamps on nipples and labia: and ringing is forbidden!
- Live, love and suffer with eyes blindfolded for 24 h
- Enema: Vaginally introduce half a litre of water and hold it for 15 minutes under the supervision of the dom.
- Power and the City: The dom takes his sub out to dinner – while she has to wear a love-ball deeply inserted, getting her strongly stimulated with every step and move she makes. The dom’s power comes to a very special peak when he can adjust the love-balls to transfer the vibration and seductive and ecstatically thrusts of electrostimulation right to the slave’s vaginal walls – while she is trying to order her main course …
SM punishment for men
The weaker sex likes to become subservient - and also suffers passionately. The fascination and the desire of men to subordinate and let themselves be dominated is great. And gets bigger and bigger. The range of punishments and orders of the mistress or the masters is almost inexhaustible. From humiliating nicknames, the complete abandonment of one's will to physical torture, both roles have a large and very attractive playing field before them. Some men like to be dressed in women's dresses, kiss the dom's feet or suffer from figging, bastinado or as useless piece of furniture.
More penalties-ideas for men:
- Cooking naked and – while the dom dines – lying underneath the table like a good dog.
- Wearing her blouse or lipstick in everyday life
- Wearing a urethral sound for a whole day
- 24 h only commands like Sit! Down! Speak! Lick! And so on ...
- His erect cock as towel holder – you better be careful that towel doesn’t fall …
- He has to go shopping and bring a perfect outfit for HER
- (Light) testicle spanking
- Orgasm ban - in case of failure he must swallow himself.
- No underpants at work/everyday life - preferably in old jeans.
- Crawling for 24 h
- Picture of his own penis as a background picture on the smartphone for a week
- Wearing a butt plug for 24 h
- Ask for permission for every little action - in case of local separation also by text message
- Electricity: The Sub can also be used as a motionless floor lamp, but for games with electricity there are much nicer versions: The punishment developed especially FOR HIM - and providing absolute power to his dom/his dominatrix - are cock cages! Not only do they keep unauthorized erections in check and prevent any kind of erotic touch to the penis. Thanks to externally controllable e-stim functions they can also make clear who wears the breeches - and who may only wear a cock cage!
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Important basic rules for BDSM penalties
Be sure to set a safe word in advance to avoid unpleasant and painful experiences! As soon as the word is spoken, there is a strict "ceasefire". This is important, because crossed borders do not only leave scars on the outside.
A little tip: Don't use something like "harder" or much too complicated words, of course.
Safety First for more pleasure: knowing that you can end it at any time often lets you go to "harder" limits in a more relaxed way.
Talk before you do it
It is completely ok and also important that you already go for your limits inside of your head before you play and during an open conversation.
A certain risk has a decisive influence on the attraction - but the greatest gain in pleasure lies precisely in staying just below critical limits. It will be longer, more intense and more fulfilling for both sides.
And please don't drink alcohol during your pre-play talk! It only distorts your inhibitions and your sense of pain.
"Keep " bad" emotions aside
If you had a serious and lasting relationship dispute in the morning, you should not slip into the BDSM roles in the evening without a clarifying word and let off steam with punishments. Emotions are important for BDSM and sensual-dominating punishments, but "bad" emotions have no place here!
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